That's a good question...
My wife is now poly , we were monogamous for 20 years, her other guy and I are both mono and don't want anyone else.
For me, this relationship is the one and only, we have no back up plan, if the relationship got wrecked to the point of no return it would be a disaster.
We were only talking about this yesterday, we feel MORE committed now and our marriage is stronger and safer...but that's us. We have worked very hard on this the last 6 months.
As for moving on, any situation where I was on my own again....I don't think I would look for anything in a relationship any more, my kids would be my priority till they could look after themselves.....ironically I might get involved in a poly relationship but only as a (mono) secondary where I could give and take love and affection but walk away from any bullshit if there were problems....not interested in negative bullshit..
"The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times but to get up eight times"
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