Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
He's on facebook.
I don't know what his "facebook" name is for certain-but I think it might be the same, because I recall seeing recognizing him as the xeromag-guy.
I was a cheater after I married, before I found poly.
Prior to marrying I was in open relationships a lot, often more than one at a time for significant periods of time.
I agree that one can change.
I don't believe that "once a cheater always a cheater". Just as I don't believe that once a person has failed at something they will always fail at it and never learn how to succeed.
Thanks for the info LovingRadiance and thanks mods for moving my novel here!
Oh - also I read some other cheaters' stories and want to add that people are not ready for poly if they are still carrying secrets with them ("I'll just take this one, two, or five things to the grave with me..."). You have to have the come to Jesus talk with your partner first.