I've no idea. Sorry for your trouble. I just went back and read your posts and it seems consistent with what you've said about your wife- not communicating, taking frustration out on whoever is closest- hopefully the conversations you will have with your wife about this situation will help you to get closer to clear communication with one another.
"Rocks will open and make a way for the lover."
~Hazrat Inayat Khan
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