Originally Posted by Carma
I can accept the fact that he is mono, but how does that work -- I can't be mono right now; I can't pretend to be something I'm not, in order to make him happy.... because ultimately, how could that make him happy???
Whew! I confuse myself, even!
You accept the fact that he is mono, and yet you made decisions to compromise your mono relationship with him. So, what does "accepting mono" mean in this case?
I heard you saying that "accepting" his mono meant telling him he didn't love all of you because he was mono and doesn't know if he can be poly. How is that any different than you not loving all of him by embracing poly.
Can he pretend to be poly in order to make you happy? Sounds like he was trying to for a while, hoping he could, but ultimately (at this point) he can't.
I wish you both happiness and love.