Originally Posted by booklady78
5. We spend a great deal of time with our other partners, at least one overnight visit per week, usually one full day on the weekends, a quick peck on the cheek at least or visit for about an hour each day during the week, sometimes more.
It does seem like you are spending more quality time with your other partners and neglecting each other. After 14 years, it can get to a point where it is nothing more than comfortable and familiar. While cuddling on the couch watching TV at the end of the day(when your both tired) is nice, it's not the same thing as spending a couple hours or more actually focusing on your partner.