Maybe its that you don't know. Why not just ask? In my poly life everything is above board. Everyone knows where I am, how long I will be there and when I will be with them. That way there are no expectations, no assumptions and everyone can rest easy that the time will come that I will see them again. Part of poly is the honesty and consideration (empathy) component... is she lacking in these departments?
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