I can see a number of miscommunications going on here.
I'll address the one that's easy to fix. The reference to "fucking around" is in Autumnal Tone's signature, and not a specific reference to this discussion. It appears as part of all of his posts.
As for the other areas you on which were seeking advice, there have been some very useful discussions on this forum on those subjects. I'd recommend doing some keyword seaches. Sorry I can't be of more help, but this is an area of poly life I just don't know much about.
Specific to Austin: if I recall correctly, the Austin poly meet-ups used to be held at Central Market, in the cafe. You might have a look at their calendar of events. And the meet-ups are weekly, not monthly.