I don't know what handle to put on my situation. I do know my heart though. I am compassionate and thinking that I hurt anyone causes me a great deal of pain.
My husband has been hurt by the fact that I tell him how I feel. Over the course of the past three years I have done everything in my power to not feel the love I feel for the other man.
I quit calling him. He calls me. When I hear from him I feel wonderful. Then when my husband asks if I've heard from my friend I have to tell him the truth. My husband thanks me for telling him the truth. Our relationship is built on honesty, even when it hurts.
About a month ago my husband and I had the conversation about another woman....he wanted me to agree even though there aren't any he's interested in. I told him that I would allow this but that I wasn't interested in bi-sexual sex. I'm just not interested. It would be hard for me because like I said before I am not interested in casual sex.