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Old 02-02-2011, 02:11 AM
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Originally Posted by BaconWrappedCupcakes View Post
I almost feel like I'm being forced to be ok with this meeting.
Well, I hope they didn't just set it up already and expect you to be there!

Just keep expressing your reservation about it and ask for time to process the request. Make it clear that you're uncomfortable with it not because you're a cowgirl or anything like that, but because it's just not in your mono makeup to have such a meeting and see him being affectionate with someone else.

Maybe you'll be willing to meet her someday, maybe not, but I don't think you should feel coerced into doing something before you are ready.
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