My husband brings it up sometimes during sex. Other tmes he brings up the fact that while he did share me sexually he doesn't want me to be emotionally involved with anyone else. I've never been interested in casual sex. He knew this before we brought our friend into that intimate place.
The actual sex acts with the other man only occurred twice in three years but the emotional attachment has been ongoing. Our friend hasn't had sex with anyone except me in three years, although he says he's tried. I even have encouraged him to because I've thought that if he did have sex with someone else the emotional attachment that I feel towards him would cease.
My husband knows how I feel. Our relationship has always been built on honesty. He knows that I can't help the way I feel. I also understand his insecurities concerning our friend.
I love my husband. He is a good man. I don't want to complicate my life with multiple partners.
Am I being selfish? How can I resolve this situation?