Youre welcome. When my ex and I tried that triad, and it went so wrong, I got super depressed. We went into couples therapy for a year, and i went to individual therapy for 3 years. It helped me a lot. Didnt save our marriage, but we had other problems as well.
Now I am in a great poly relationship w my current SO. We both get our own secondaries, tertiaries,etc~!!! None of this sharing bs.
Good luck on your journey. I know exactly how hard it is.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 60) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 38) since January 2009, living together since 2013
also loving Punk (monogamish, 42, M) since Oct 2015
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 2 years