I've been struggling lately with self-care; I have a hard time making time for myself, and I struggle to use my time in the most efficient ways. On forgiveness: something that helped me was becoming a mother, oddly enough. (Obviously I don't recommend having a child just so one can learn self-compassion, but I think you are a parent already, right?) For me, there was this moment of revelation when I realized that my parents loved me (they were gone before my son was born) the same way, with the same depth and unconditional love, as I have for my son. Somehow I was able to take the forgiveness and compassion I have for him and apply it to myself through that understanding of myself as their baby.