Originally Posted by nightwalker
She was unhappy and felt that poly was the solution to keep us together as a family.
That's a major problem. Adding more people to the mix is no way to fix a relationship that isn't working.
This--and not your child--is an actual *reason* to put things on hold. You'll have to settle the issues in your marriage before you can ever hope to have a successful poly tangle.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.