Originally Posted by nycindie
I sounds to me like what you really want is to clear up the ambiguity in your relationship. I'd bet if things were more clearly defined, or the dynamic was more aligned with what you wanted, getting that kind of Valentine's Day acknowledgment wouldn't be as important to you. What I got from reading your post is that you have some dissatisfaction with your situation. Perhaps that is what needs to be addressed, much much more than what symbolic gesture will make you feel better about it.
Totally agree. VDAY is just the manifestation of a larger issue. I haven't quite figured out what to do about all that yet. Some conversations have been needing to happen for awhile now. Hopefully we'll get things straightened out soon. Just to clarify, I'm open to doing things on days other than the 14th. The issue was more the fact that he said that we wouldn't be able to go on a date period. Since A isn't comfortable with that. But thanks for the suggestions. I'm sure we'll figure something out.