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Old 01-30-2011, 07:12 AM
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Originally Posted by koifish View Post
. . . I will get sick and fall away from the pack, then they will be together as a pair, when what I really crave is him alone with me.

When I read over my post, I don't really think I convey what it is to have my fiance there when I'm feeling gross. It is the only thing on the planet that I find comforting and because I feel so bad, my need for his company in this way rises past the level of a want and becomes a need.
Never mind about conveying this to us here -- have you told HIM???? This is something he should know. And if he does know and still refuses to tend to your needs, perhaps it is time to break up.
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