What about the other woman??
What are you seeking from the relationship with the other woman??
Are you seeking a vee or a triad??
Definitely important to consider the kids... and being this age.. I would say that it is time to get your life in order for you... because even if you did find a great couple to be with.. what if something happened in 20 Years?? I mean we all hope that doesn't happen, but what if it did.. and you still hadn't found a way to have your own money and retirement etc... if you solely rely upon someone else to provide that security for you... is it really secure??
Anyway... I would like to know what state you are in if you don't mind sharing..