"vanilla sex - sex without bdsm" - so... every flavour of sex apart from vanilla is about BDSM? that seems a bit dismissive to me!
We non-BDSM types have plenty of neapolitan and tuttifrutti and ripple etc. going on, thank you very much
. Besides, there's some really bloody great vanilla to be had out there - and some godawful BDSM too.
Sometimes the quality is more important than the flavour.