We are located in Central Iowa too. I'm 35, husband is 36. However, he is saying he is not poly (I'm not sure I agree but that's his decision not mine). We have multiple friends that are poly, including co-habitating triads etc... So, even out here in Iowa we exist
we met most through the swinging community, though some in other ways. I'd be happy to talk any time, but we are in therapy right now to find a way to make me being poly, he being mono & not ok with me being poly work, so we are certainly not dating material. I do have a poly friendly therapist to recommend if you ever need one.