Thanks redpepper I will do that
What kind of prep work do you mean? I definitely have several years of research into the poly lifestyle and know a few people who are happily involved in multiple partner relationships. As for my guy, he obviously doesn't have much prep work since he's basically not open to really discuss it in depth and gets very upset about it. I understand my actions earlier in our relationship ('getting back', ultimatums, etc) were totally the wrong way to go about it, and unfortunately that's the only 'prep work' he's had.