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Wow. You are absolutely right at every level. Thankfully no, we are not having him over just to try and impress him; it's just to get to know each other and *hopefully* break down barriers in the process. I like to think that I don't harbor any unrealistic expectations about the meeting, and I know we cannot make
him do anything.
Despite recognizing that, my fear and tension is
definitely coming from focusing on the outcome, even though I know I can't control it. It's irrational but I'm finding it hard not to think that way since it feels like a negative outcome might take her away from us. Which, in reality, it almost certainly wouldn't anyway.
Not to get all gushy, but that was an incredibly helpful and insightful response, I'm somewhat floored.