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Old 01-21-2011, 06:32 PM
Del5158 Del5158 is offline
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: New England
Posts: 12

As a relative newcomer to this, I can tell you that it is not odd to be threatened by just about everything at first. My wife is actively poly and has three lovers. I don't have any or actually want any at this point.

I did encourage her to go for it when we first discussed the possibility of a poly lifestyle. The first few times she had sex with another man definitely scared me as much as it turned me on. Now, I am not scared at all and I am actually not as turned on by her sex now as by her happiness.

My advice is to give your wife what I need from my wife-- constant reassurance that she is and always will be No. 1, and plenty of affection.
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