I post in this forum because I have been the second wife in a relationship for almost 10 years.
Before that I dated as a bisexual polyamorous single.
Therefore I not only know what the unicorn was, I was/am one.
Im my current situation wife one is legally married and reaps all the benefits therein.
For a lot of reasons, including that I don't seem to be worthy of a legal marriage even for a little while. I have decided that at 40 I am going to start over again. This time in a position of being "wife one", primary what-have-you.
Unless I am looking in all the wrong places though, all my initial encounters with men seems to be that they are all already legally married.
Sorry I haven't been clear so far...still appreciate the responses just the same!