I've been noticing that there are an awful lot of poly-connected people in the military. Do you think it's because those in the military and those who are in relationship with them are "taught" to be more self sufficient rather than co-dependant? You kind of have to learn who you are and what you want when you're faced with being away from a loved one for long periods of time.
Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok it's not the end.