Originally Posted by Tonberry
If, however, what you want is for him to be with you only, but only with your husband present, then that's a bit different. Either way, make it clear what you want and don't want.
I personally think that would be a bit harder, because having sex with someone for the first time can be pressuring, but if there is someone else watching that could make it more awkward. But I don't know him, maybe that's his kind of thing!
Yes, that is what we want. What you pointed out is a concern of mine which, I guess, will ultimately be up to him.
We are not sure if he is bi at all. He talks very little if ever about this side of himself. I've actually wondered if he was celibate in the past. But I don't think you have to be bi to be with the same lady at once... ?
Thanks for your imput.