Yep I agree with the others that the fact your partner is alcoholic is your major problem. That isn't something you can deal with unless he acknowledges it and seeks help for himself.
Mr Rusty I find your description of monos more than a little patronizing. Generalizations like you're making are really unhelpful in mono/poly relationships. Many of us invest a great deal of time and effort to understand our partners and I believe many of us succeed. We are constantly faced with having to defend them in the face of condemnation from the wider community and it would be nice to receive a little sincere, rather than condescending, acknowledgment in return.
Your sort of attitude really gets up my nose.
Last edited by sage; 01-19-2011 at 03:24 AM.