A balance is a good thing in life I think. I used to be an activist and got so into it the rest of my life blurred. I lost perspective and people that I could of influenced and enjoyed just by being me... your gut will give you the answer, but also it could be a case of NRE. Give it some time and don't dump the baby out with the bath water... try and stay present when you are with both men and remind your self to keep perspective and aware that one is new to you and like a new toy and the other isn't. Maybe they are an old favorite, or maybe you have grow out of them... time will tell.
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