Originally Posted by redpepper
"polydar" is really not far off then!
So the privacy thing. (I don't want to clog the board with lots of threads so I'll ask here.) I imagine there's others who for various reasons need to keep your intimate lives private.
Is there any advice you would offer to navigate something like that? Both in terms of meeting people and in terms of later stages in relationship. Space apart public meetings with separate people or plan for different times of day? Discuss in private publicly workable labels that everyone is comfortable with? Accept the possibility of stretching truth sometimes (as in calling a secondary lover a friend provided secondary is fully accepting of that)?
Though I would love to just educate everyone on the core of the lifestyle, to solve all the misunderstanding, that's not realistic. So instead I guess it's taking the tack of just trying to minimize potential judgmental consequences. Unless I move but that's not workable right now.