Originally Posted by redpepper
In regards to the gentleman with the two ladies in the same room that you don't know what to do with? hmmm.... they seem a tad selfish if they are unable to give you space and have compersion for the other.
That's not even remotely the issue. If you live with two partners, you will inevitably end up all being in the same room just in the course of your natural lives. When this happens, there's a problem with undirected
affectionate feelings - if I have a romantic impulse, and it's not specific to either partner, there's a decision to be made about where and how to express it.
That decision is not simple, because neither partner can tell
that the impulse is undirected. They don't know what I'm feeling... only what I do in response
to those feelings.