in my relationship, i can feel howit's enhanced me as a person, meaning, i feel closer to my boyfriend's children and welcomed in their marriage.
but, i don't feel we are growing as a family...we don't live together, but the husband/ my boyfriend, is so quick to keep our relationship a secret, where as it doesn't bother me. for e.g. at family functions he can't hug me, but will kiss his wife/my dear friend. and it hurts a little bit. but i understand why, they can't risk an upheaval of their children's lives & catholic upbringing.
so, individual & family development are not simultaneous. i hope i got the question right.