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Old 01-17-2011, 03:26 AM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
But, for me, I know perfectly well that while I (and they) are in NRE, there is a chemical nightmare going on in our heads that has nothing at all to do with whether or not we're intellectually, lifestyle, future-goal compatible. Great we're sexually compatible-SO WHAT?

IF I'm looking for someone to fill in the entertainment in my sex life THATS PERFECT.
But in terms of someone to be a part of my family (with 5 kids in it)-that's simply not reasonable. ....

Make sense?
Exactly. I enjoy getting all fluttery when the chemical bath kicks in and I'm infatuated with someone. That isn't enough to launch a relationship, however, so I enjoy that feeling and then spend time building a friendship to see if there's reason to believe a long-term relationship could come of it.
When speaking of various forms of ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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