Been thinking about this topic. I have been corresponding for a few months now with a poly guy who is married, and we're planning to meet sometime soon. If we choose to become intimate and he ever invites me to sleep in the bed he shares with his wife, I know I wouldn't feel comfortable with it. In fact, I wouldn't feel comfortable with even being in their bedroom. I view my bedroom as a sanctuary and am careful about the energy that goes into it, so even if they didn't care about that stuff, I would feel weird being sexual with him in their space. Other reasons: I wouldn't want to feel like an invader, or that I was just another body in his bed, and I would want our liaisons to have some sort of special designation, separate from other relationships he has.
Curious how it worked out with the OP talking to her hub's gf about it.
Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership.
Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy!
For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
~ Carl Sagan
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