Originally Posted by lovinhimloviner
The problem i am having now is I keep bending over backwards to make sure she is comfortable. She has said she feels like the OW.
Let her take responsibility for her own issues. That's not your problem to solve.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.