Originally Posted by nycindie
If his wife is not aware he's sleeping around, it isn't poly. If he's calling it poly to justify what he's doing, it is clear that he doesn't even know what polyamory is himself -- because he's obviously already told you his wife doesn't know. He is just trying to get you in the sack. I'd stay far away from him. He's a liar and a cheater. And he seems a bit stupid, too.
This, and he could also be using the term, as some do, to deceive women into thinking that he cares. He doesn't care and he doesn't respect women. He enjoys fucking them and that is it... no one, in my opinion can really actively carry on solid loving relationships with good foundations if there is that many and adding more... not only that but his wife doesn't know. He's a cheater and a user. That is it. Not worth bothering with if you ask me.