Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
See, I'm wondering if this might not be a significant difference.
If my kids were grown and not at home, or I didn't have any, my attitude would be more "lenient" in regards to having...... short term partners (for lack of a better term).
But, I don't have the money to entertain elsewhere and I can't take those risks with my kiddos. You know?
I do admit that there are times I think it would be nice. But-alas, it's not that way.
I don't think it's only kids that face that risk, either. One thing I've learned is that for me, a partner's lover becomes important in my life, whether I plan it or not. I wouldn't be able to handle a high turnover in OSO's either, in the same way it's not really good for kids. I agree with waiting until there's relationship before becoming lovers.