Than you Booklady for the supportive reply.
I had been emailing this man for 8 months and knew he was not monogamous.
As I do not want a monogamous relationship, this did not bother me.
Because of the issue of sexual safety, which I take very seriously, I did ask a more revealing question that resulted in finding out the info I posted.
I presented it in as factual a manner as I could because I wanted to confirm what I basically already knew....He is a player trying to pass off his behavior as something else. I was really disappointed, but relieved that I found out.
I have a fairly good working knowledge of what Polyamory is, although I have never lived the lifestyle.