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Old 01-14-2011, 09:04 AM
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First of all, just because a relationship ends does not mean it wasn't a success. Not every relationship is meant to last forever.

Second of all, one can't really generalize that mono people jump right into something new. That is actually the opposite of the general mindset I see, which is you need to give yourself a certain time to heal before starting over with someone else. I mean, there are even formulas out there for figuring out how long to wait! I started dating again not quite six months after my ex moved out, and am still self-conscious about how soon that was. Most people do react as if I shouldn't be dating yet, when I say how fresh my breakup is, so I don't know what you base your theories on. Maybe it's a regional or cultural thing. It's obvious that you feel poly is better than mono, but perhaps it might be more accurate to say it's better for you.
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