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Old 01-10-2011, 10:11 PM
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Default difference between poly and commitment-phobic??

Hello,

I'm a little stuck. I don't know what I want. Shocker, for a female, right?

Well I have the great disadvantage of having Borderline Personality Disorder, which greatly affects relationships and trust. My question is, how can I know if I am really poly, or if I am simply terrified of remaining in a long term relationship that will grow boring and meaningless?

I really tried out polyamory for the first time last year, but didn't get very far before I met my bf, who chased me for months before I finally agreed to be mono with him. I struggled for the first few months, got settled, and now am relatively happy... except I keep finding myself having to restrict myself around other guyfriends, and feeling unsatisfied emotionally despite having a very affectionate and supportive bf.

I don't want to throw away a good relationship if I'm not even sure I'm poly. My bf is absolutely dead set against being poly, so it's pretty much him or poly.

Any advice on how to tell the difference? Or am I pretty much just stuck being miserable for the sake of having a solid 'happy' relationship?
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