Sigh....Ok, L brought up a good point today to me. I asked her if maybe V was using N to show me how much it hurt to hear about S & D (L and I's previous lovers) all the time. L told me "No. N has just come out of a long relationship and is hurting. V is just a very caring person and doesn't like to see her friends hurting."
This is true. And now....I feel like a heel.