Originally Posted by oklawildflower
So what I have a hard time wrapping my mind around, particularly when I see how great they are together, and how much they share... is what exactly do we have that he couldn't have with her plus some more?
I don't have any advice, but I wanted you to know that you're not alone in feeling this way. My husband fell in love with another woman, and that's how I started along the poly path. I was afraid of being replaced, curious about my own worth, and struggled a lot in the beginning. But in the end, I fell in love with her too: not the same way that he was, but because of how she added to his life, and eventually because of how she added to mine.