I really appreciate the idea that there can be 2 ways of discovering Polyamory -- falling in love with another person, or falling in love with Polyamory and then pursuing the lifestyle!
I fell in love with someone, and was completely confused. It was awful. I could not understand how this could happen, when I loved my husband dearly (and still do).
Conventional thinking completely condemns me for what my heart says is right.
I still really struggle, but coming here helps.