Originally Posted by sage
I spent it largely trying to convince my son-in-law that I'm not a victim in a relationship with a guy who is "getting to have his cake and eat it too" (hate that saying).
I suspect that, after a couple too many refusals on his part to accept that I were fine and not being taken advantage of, I'd just offer up something along the lines of "Pardon me, your ignorance is showing." At that point, it would cease to be a topic of conversation available to him.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.