Originally Posted by GroundedSpirit
3. The libido comment - you are male - get used to it. Poly is MUCH more than satisfying physical needs. Don't try to use it as an excuse or tool !
I have to disagree, GS. I think highly divergent sex drives, interests or abilities can be a valid reason to seek another partner.
If one's partner is ill either mentally or physically they may be incapable of an interest in sex.
Partner's kinks can also evolve or become unable to deny. Some people seek others to satisfy fetishes with the permission of their spouse, even if an emotional attachment occurs with the play partner(s).
Some people discover they are gay, but love the other partner and want to stay together besides the acknowledged lack of sexual attraction.
Also, if, after NRE wears off, one partner wants it twice a day and the other a brief encounter twice a year, but the marriage is solid in other ways... well then what?