Thanks for opening up, Paradox. It's great you confessed to the makeout session right away.
It can take a lot longer than a month to open a mono relationship to being a poly one. I'm glad you 2 are pacing your discussions to avoid burnout and flared tempers.
The first things to deal with are jealousy and fear of abandonment on the part of the mono partner.
Lots of us have worked through those feelings, tho. Keep reading and venting, and I hope your wife does too!
Heres a place to find step by step ways to open the relationship. Check out the links in the top left corner.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)