Just a quick two cents as you have already gotten lots of great advice! But I don't really agree that if you initially have a hard time imagining him with other women you probably aren't poly. There are a lot of reasons why you might feel this way.
When I started thinking about adopting poly, I had a lot of bad feelings about sharing my primary with others but I knew that I felt okay about the idea of me seeing other people because I knew where my intentions began and ended. For me, I think that says that I felt insecure about my relationship with him not that I wasn't poly.
I am not EITHER/OR, but AND and probably YES.
Last edited by mushaboom; 01-04-2011 at 05:02 AM.