Yes, there are differences in speed. It goes with being human I think.
Breathes and I moved rather quickly in our relationship. Possibility and I are going at a snail's pace (I think the snail would win a race actually, lol).
I was reading your blog this morning, unfortunately the clock chimed & I had to get ready for work before I got a chance to read the whole thing
I can see where you would need the rules you have in place. We have some of the same ones here. NO ONE, other than us, sleeps in our bed unless we're both there, EVER! My stuff is MY stuff, no touchy without permission. Our toys are used ONLY with us (both sex toys and BDSM toys).
I don't know whether to say this or not but I'm going to....I'm proud of both of you. LR I'm proud because you have stated your needs quite succinctly & Maca I'm proud because you stuck by those rules & didn't falter with NL (Skittles if I'm reading correctly) even though I'm sure you wanted to.