Thanks all, You have given me lots to think about. i have told him that i am not sure it is something for me. As it is so new he does understand. And i really think the issue with the GF plays a major role in my issues. Once a cheater always a cheater? How could i trust him right?
i am going to continue with the understanding that i want to take it day by day and see how things work. Thanks for taking the time to help!