Originally Posted by preciselove
If you're in two Vs then you're basically relying upon 4 people to not have unprotected sex with outsiders.... I'd find that difficult. It's easy to see how STDs transfer through open poly communities like a wildfire.
Well, one V is long-term (9 years) and we've never had an issue there and are all tested regularly.
The other one I am at the 'thinking about' stage, but in that one, everybody has been tested and all are fine. The issue in this relationship is trust. I've only known the guy for about a year and the woman for a shorter period.