Originally Posted by sage
I know there are always going to be people who will never see the positive in our life choices but how do you portray your situation to new people you meet or people who have been previously unaware of it, in a positive light?
My bar is very high for anyone in a relationship regardless of mono or poly.
To answer your question..I don't try to convince anyone anymore. I used to but found it draining and took away from the friendships I have. If I want people to understand, they can watch us all together as a family. Even some of our local poly friends are a little impressed by what we have built. Anyone who observes us for a while sees that we are all healthy and are taken care of.
If someone came to me with the idea of poly before I had experienced it, it would take a hell of a lot of convincing to prove to me that it was anything more than one person being co-dependent and the other taking advantage of their partner. Even now I look at people's situations and feel this quite often.
Show people..don't bother trying to explain it is my advice.