Yeah I thought of him too, pity he has such a hard-to-spell forum name, maybe we could change it to Indy? If we're drawing on specific examples I think Vodkafan does incredibly well too, although I can't help feel sorry for the fact that he has to live without his wife for a percentage of the week.
But I think you're setting the bar way too high. How many poly's would could be positive role models by those standards? And even if we meet those standards (or come close)others looking in will still often pity us rather than respect us. I know there are always going to be people who will never see the positive in our life choices but how do you portray your situation to new people you meet or people who have been previously unaware of it, in a positive light?