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Old 01-02-2011, 11:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Olderwoman View Post

If you find "great offence" in that, then I am wondering if you could handle my honest conversation or any of my kind of real truth.

(I seriously thought you were joking.)

Is everyone else in this forum is that delicate and fragile?

People are so quick to jump to conclusions about me on this forum without taking the time to get to know me.

You misunderstand my words, and my intentions and you judge me and take offense at very little.

When you lose the opportunity to know someone you lose a lot.

There is no way I can be "all knowing" and know what any given person is going to take offense of.

I will speak my mind and my truth anyway. You are responsible for your reactions and I am responsible for mine.

I have found no love on this polyamory "love' forum.
Perhaps it would help not to attack a statement made by someone else - based on your own perception. I found the comment to be offensive... I wasn't hurt by it, nor am I 'delicate and fragile'... If you knew me at all you would understand I am very very strong.

Just as you would not walk on eggs around people - neither do I. I found a number of your comments offensive, or disrespectful or simply off-topic.

I feel no anger towards you, I do not know you and realise my perception of what you have said is unlikely to be the way it was meant - however, just as you would like to be understood better in your phrasing/tone, I, for one, would like to have my posts and feelings/opinions treated with a little more regard.

I do realise this is probably largely due to different communication styles. But personally - if someone tells me that I have offended them, even when done unintentionally - I will apologise, and try to help them understand what I meant, I will not laugh and then ridicule, or demean by saying they must be 'delicate and fragile'.

If I was misunderstood it is my responsibility to correct that.
If I don't know how or why I offended it is also my responsibility to find out.

So, if I have misunderstood you any further in this post - please message me privately and I will be happy to iron out our difference of opinion. same if I have offended you at all...

Otherwise I am genuinely curious to understand how you feel about my original question... Especially as you do have the benefit of age and experience. If you feel you have already answered that question... would you mind rephrasing it as I seem to have missed your opinion on that topic.
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